Sunday, January 23, 2011

Does she sleep thru the night?

No she does not. That is the answer to the number one question I'm being asked at the moment. Does she thru the night, yet? Since Audrey doesn't sleep thur the night that means I don't sleep thur the night either but I'm surprisingly ok with that.

I recently read an article featuring my new hero Mayim Bialik where she mentioned embracing the lack of sleep. It is in the fighting that we can turn it into a negativity. She also mentioned finding support and/or a supportive group. She is so right! I don't mind the lack of sleep; I know it is part of motherhood. I'm also so on the whole find support thing. I love my La Leche League group and miss my babywearing group from Greensboro. All moms need a group to turn to for support; this is especially true of us crunchier moms since we are usually the only crunchies we even know. Thank God for the internet! I highly recommend TheBabywearer.com and the mother of the crunchy boards Mothering.com. We are not as alone as we feel.
So back to sleeping, the measure of a good mom is not how long your baby sleeps at night. Every baby is different and Doctor so and so's plan may not be right for you and your baby. So embrace your sleep whether you get 2 hours or 8 and forget the advice of those that go against your instincts.



Friday, January 14, 2011

Dogs a better class of people

That is my friend, Bill's, saying. Dogs are a better class of people. Yesterday we got horrible news that a friend's dog has been hit by a car and killed. That friend had raised that dog since he was like 8 weeks old. That dog was like a child, a first born.

I know there are people who think a dog is a dog is a dog. For me and my friends, our dogs have been like children. I know that I would not be half the mom I am today if Snoopy and Jasmin, my two dogs, had not started me on the path to being a mom.

I was self-fish, self-centered, and pretty thought-less when it came to others. I never really owed anybody anything. DH accepted me for me so I didn't really have a need to change and then Snoopy entered my life. Gone were the days of just running to NC for the weekend. I had a dog, a dependent, to think about. Martha before dogs and Martha after really are different Marthas.

So make fun if you must. My first child has four legs and so does my second. My third baby loves the first two and they love her back. We are a happy family of five so yes I would mourn my dog as a child; they made me a mom. So today I have K in my thoughts and prayers because she lost a child, a furry four-legged (well three-legged in Dig's case) child and she is in pain. So dogs are a better class of people, thank you B for reminding me.



Tuesday, January 11, 2011

The Bubba connection

So Audrey has a new word! It's Bubba! Do you know what Bubba is? It means BOOB! Despite my efforts to get her to say 'milks' for nursing time, she has chosen the word Bubba. I guess it could be worse. She could in fact yell Boob when she is hungry. So we are just going to roll with it. She even asked in her sleep for Bubba instead of just signaling. She is growing up quick!

I also think she is learning to play with language a bit. DH and I sometimes call nursing time Boobs and my mother say Vaca. I think decided if she combined the two everyone would understand! We'll see what her next word is. I bet it will be another combo.



Sunday, January 9, 2011

Vaccines

So with all of the new information on the vaccine/autism link or lack thereof plus Audrey's 1 year old doc appointment vaccines have been on my mind. I'm thinking I might have to turn in my crunchy card after this post but we'll see.

I am in favor of vaccines. Before you judge let me explain. I am a delay-vaxer. DH is also in favor of delayed vaxing. I think to some extent we are select vaxers. The doctor is trying to convince us that we should do the vax for chicken pox, so far we are not buying it.

I am in favor of vaccines because they can keep kids safe. I don't want Audrey to suffer from a preventable disease like polio. I don't want to look back and see that I could have saved her life with a shot. I know the likelihood of coming across a person with polio and then Audrey contracting it are small but the chance is there. While I don't normally go with the medical establishment, I have to say that some vaccines are good. Are all the vaccines necessary? I'm thinking no and I don't like the schedule at all. But for our family, some vaccines with extra spacing and time in-between (and not in combo) is right. I also think that since I work with the public with alot of recent arrivals from other countries not having vaccines is just taking a risk.