So I'm 35 and have one child. No this was not my plan. I had planned to have 4 kids and I would have been done having them last year. Some how my plans did not get properly transmitted to the Big Guy Upstairs and my plans didn't come to pass. I'm getting good with it. I'm not totally good with it but I'm getting there.
I get asked the dreaded question, when are you going to have another one?, and I'm getting tired of answering it. Why do people care about the status of my uterus? Have I screwed up so badly with GymGirl that they are trying to see if I'll do better next time? Why do people ask?
As far as I can see GymGirl will be an only child. So not my plan! I know I'm in good company with other fabulous mothers who only have one child. But yes it hurts to think I'm done at one. We've been trying for a while and nothing. I'm pretty sure I've had at least one very early miscarriage but otherwise no baby.
I don't want to tell random people my uterus business. Why do random people ask? Seriously you just met me and you want to know when I'm having another one. Why do people bypass me and ask my daughter if she wants a baby brother or sister? Like this isn't hard enough without extra pressure of a child asking for you to reproduce.
I'm no where near out of options. We haven't been to a specialist. We have even put a baby to the back burner until after I become Dr. Wheatless Mama. I'm 35 and healthy. In my family babies after 40 are pretty common. If a baby is in my future still then I'll happily embrace that future but if I'm one and done then I'm getting good with that too.
Being Catholic the implication to only one child is that I'm using artificial birth control. People have a hard time believing that some women, Mexican women in particular, have a hard time getting pregnant. I use NFP, Natural Family Planning. We have since we got married and God's plan so far is for us to have only one child.
I am running out of patience and not super personal answers. I don't want to lie or be rude but seriously what the hell kind of answer do you expect? Like I'm going to announce to a perfect stranger that actually I'm pregnant now but we haven't told anyone. What exactly do people want to know when they ask that question? Anyways this was mostly a rant. Moving on . . .
Thursday, October 16, 2014
Thursday, October 9, 2014
Exoskeleton of Support
So the band I'm in played a benefit gig a few weeks back. I noticed many people stayed outside but told us we sounded great. I think the idea was that they were being supportive but it was just too loud for them. They had a our back though. I've been sitting with this idea a while and I'm still quite confused by the whole thing.
How can you sit outside and still be supportive? If I don't walk in to place, is my declaration of support still valid? This brings to mind all of the online petitions that get passed around. Those are the very least we can do. If I am doing the bare minimum am I actually doing anything?
I am very much a get off your ass type of person. If I believe in something and I can do something to help then I try my best to get off my ass and help. I've cleaned up "bad" neighborhoods. I've played games with seniors in a nursing home. I've attended punk rock shows even then I think they are too loud and I'm too old. I've gone to events in other cities to be supportive of the organization even when I didn't know any of the performers. Can you be supportive if you never get up?
I keep thinking about the idea of shop local, support downtown, buy organic and those such movements. DH owns a coffeeshop in downtown Lufkin. I ask people to buy local and support downtown. I changed to a beautyshop downtown. I try to buy clothes in downtown but I don't really have much luck since I'm a lady of a certain size. I want others to be downtown so I'm downtown. Should I be doing more? I guess we can usually do more.
Where is the line of support? Can my online signature do anything? Does my dollar do as much as me getting off my ass actually helping build a habitat for humanity house? Can I say I'm supporting something, a business, a musician, an artist, but sit outside? I have no answers and mixed up feelings.
How can you sit outside and still be supportive? If I don't walk in to place, is my declaration of support still valid? This brings to mind all of the online petitions that get passed around. Those are the very least we can do. If I am doing the bare minimum am I actually doing anything?
I am very much a get off your ass type of person. If I believe in something and I can do something to help then I try my best to get off my ass and help. I've cleaned up "bad" neighborhoods. I've played games with seniors in a nursing home. I've attended punk rock shows even then I think they are too loud and I'm too old. I've gone to events in other cities to be supportive of the organization even when I didn't know any of the performers. Can you be supportive if you never get up?
I keep thinking about the idea of shop local, support downtown, buy organic and those such movements. DH owns a coffeeshop in downtown Lufkin. I ask people to buy local and support downtown. I changed to a beautyshop downtown. I try to buy clothes in downtown but I don't really have much luck since I'm a lady of a certain size. I want others to be downtown so I'm downtown. Should I be doing more? I guess we can usually do more.
Where is the line of support? Can my online signature do anything? Does my dollar do as much as me getting off my ass actually helping build a habitat for humanity house? Can I say I'm supporting something, a business, a musician, an artist, but sit outside? I have no answers and mixed up feelings.
Wednesday, October 8, 2014
GymGirl's first fundraiser
Please support our fundraiser
Above is the link for GymGirl's first fundraiser. If you can help out please click on the link.
Above is the link for GymGirl's first fundraiser. If you can help out please click on the link.
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