Thursday, July 22, 2010

Who works harder?

Okay so DH is still a stay at home dad but now that we live with my parents, my mom is also taking care of Audrey.  They split the day about half and half so that mom can take over when Ray starts grad school in a month.  I'm pulling a 9-6, which is a bit longer of a day than I use to do.  I come home and spend the rest of the day with Audrey.  I sleep with Audrey and even if I can sneek away she wakes up so I'm with her for the rest of the night.

The other day I asked DH for 10 minutes of baby-free/work-free time.  He told me that no mother gets and to get over it.  Needless to say that was the start of a fight.  I use to feel guilty about leaving him home all day with the baby.  He was the main care takers for 6 months.   I know that was hard but he has help now, the baby is older and I'm working my ass off, can I please have 10 minutes to myself?  After pointing out today that he was getting 10 minutes to himself to do nothing but read for fun and that I too deserve at least that much, he finally took Audrey and I'm spending my 10 minutes writing a blog about the baby.  So maybe not so baby-free but I don't think my life will ever be baby-free again.  I'm a mom, that's life.  I wonder if I'll be able to run off and have a mani-pedi, that would take well over 10 minutes!  We'll see.  I don't think this fight is over yet . . .


  1. I'm so sorry! I hope he understands that needing at least 10 minutes for yourself has everything to do with your duty as a mother, that way you get to give your little princess even more

  2. The fight was over. Now it's back on. You attacked me out of the blue. I didn't tell you to get over it until the next day when you blamed me for forcing the baby to bite your nipple while breastfeeding.
    My point was that we all have alot to do all day and no one gets time to do things not baby related for long. You can have as much time as you can steal, but we are all doing our very best here, not just you.

  3. DH it's not an attack. Just a view point. I know you have your own and I didn't say anything bad about you. Balancing work, family, and self time is something every family has to learn to do. I haven't been demanding/sneeking/stealing any me time and then I'm taking it out on you. That is a big no-no. I see my issue so now I'm asking/demanding your help with the solution. Which is worse, the daily fight or just telling me to take a 10-minute chill fest?

  4. I did that last night, remember? That was when you posted the blog.
    At any rate, we're closer to the same page now, which is good.
    Of course you need/deserve a break; we all do. We just have to work together on this stuff.