at reading other people. I'm a sucky person reader. Seriously, Jeffery Dahmer would have been my best friend. I would be the person on tv, "Like he seemed really nice. Quiet but nice. We would talk and he seemed normal. I guess you just never know." Dude I never know!
DH would say I collect crazies. I say I just like to talk to people. I very rarely meet a person I don't like. I trust everyone. I'm surprized I'm not dead yet. I know that there are people in this world that are out to hurt others but I guess I just believe that God will keep them away.
I don't really have a problem with my lack of character judgement. Like I said I just trust God is putting people into my life for whatever reason and go with the flow. But I'm beginning to wonder if this is a good trait to pass on to Audrey. DH is a good judge of character. He can always tell when someone is about to turn on me; he knows how a friendship will end; he tries to keep the bad people out of my life. So I hope that Audrey takes on some of his skills. I don't want anyone to hurt my Audrey but DH is also mistrustful of just about everyone and I'm not sure that is good for Audrey either. I don't want her to think that everyone is out to get her. I don't think everyone is out to get people. So how do I help strike the right balance? Teach her to trust people but keep her safe. Teach her to be cautions without teaching her to be afraid of everyone.
I'm a horrible judge of character. Some people just suck at reading other's intentions. All the way back to middle school, I've had trouble picking friends. I have one best friend that dates back to 7th grade, I think she's another reason I've made it so far. She tended to keep the bad folks out of my life too. I think she has the right balance. She has lots of friends but knows how to keep the "crazies" out of her life. Maybe with the move back to Texas, Miss Audrey will have a good model afterall.
I love the fact that you trust people. It's a big part of who you are, just as my trusting no one who hasn't earned it is a big part of who I am. I take that back; I do trust people. I just trust people to be true to their essential nature. It just so happens that most people are essentially assholes.
ReplyDeleteFirst off....my daughters name is Audrey too!!! LOVE that name!
ReplyDeleteI am a lot like you. I trust everyone. It's a quality I got from my mother. She is one of the nicest people I know, not because she is my mother, but because she is always there to help others. I have always admired that about her. She never thinks bad about anyone.
In my case, me trusting everyone has never backfired.
It's a quality I admire very much in people.
Thank you Marcela! I like trusting people. I like seeing the good in people. It makes me happy.
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