Okay, so I've got several friends who have babies and I've noticed many talking about sending the baby to granny's for a night. I have not spent the night away from Audrey and she's 15 months old so needless to say I began feeling like I was a weirdo or really a loser. What is wrong with me? Why haven't I sent my baby away for an overnight visit? She should have time to bond with her grandparents, right?
So I did what every modern mom does, I hit Twitter up with the question, when did you first leave your child for the night? I mean maybe I"m damaging my child. So the responses were overwheleming at least 2 years old and one mom said 4 years old. This made me feel less like a weirdo. I'm not the only momma refusing to leave her baby for the night. But I was thinking about it. Is my sample actually "normal"? I mean I follow and am followed by people who think like me. Most of the people I follow are AP parents, lactivist, and homebirth activist, not exactly mainstream America.
I don't think I'm any closer to finding out if I'm normal or not with question to the whole leaving your baby thing. I guess I have to fall back on the old, "it feels right to me." I guess I also need to do some research on "normal" ages that children spend the night away from their parents. I know for me, Audrey spending the night down the hall won't happend until she's nightweaned. She still searchs for boob at least twice a night. I"m in no hurry to wean her at all so it may be a while yet. So when do you think it's okay to leave baby for the night?
you're not alone! my baby has not spent a night away from me since he was born, Actually! this week is the very first time I'll be away from him for a couple of days and the guilt is killing me
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