Audrey was released from the hospital yesterday. We finally saw her pedi after she ran a fever for 3 days straight. Her highest was 104.6 but the pedi's answering service recommended just staying home and giving Tylenol. When we finally saw the doc, she sent us straight to the hospital. It was a bit scary. She was talking about spinal taps and how we should have been to the emergency room.
The doc ordered so many tests and procedures. Honestly it was very difficult to watch them hurt my baby to try to make her better. I know I should be happy that Audrey is better but I really wonder how much was really necessary. As I write I'm listening to her breath and think she might be wheezing a little but I'm too scared of the doctor to really considering going just a for quick follow up. We need a new doctor for Audrey.
We have talked to several people in the area and we get the same thing, well all the doctors around here are the same, they all suck. Surely that can't be true. There has to be one decent doctor in the Lufkin, Tx area! I hope.
Thursday, August 26, 2010
Thursday, August 19, 2010
Weaning
Today's topic at La Leche League meeting was weaning. We wrote weaning stories for our children. Some from experience, some of us for the future and others with stars in their eyes and babies in their bellies. They were beautiful and touching. You could hear the pain in the stories. The acceptance of letting their children grown up and ending the breastfeeding relationship.
I dread the idea of weaning Audrey. I love breastfeeding her. The closeness and bond we share. The private mommy and baby time that no one else can ever have with her. I'm hoping we'll make it to 2 year for Audrey. DH and I have talked about trying to have another baby after Audrey turns one, which would mean tandum (sp?) feeding and bfing during pregnancy, two things I had never thought about doing. Feed two babies at one time when they are different ages the thought had never crossed my mind. I had always thought breastfeeding during pregnancy was dangerous. So many things to think about!
For now Audrey and I are dealing with thrush. I hate thrush. I honestly think it hurts worse than childbirth! so we'll continue treating with Grapefruit Seed Extract. It is clearing up just not gone all the way.
I dread the idea of weaning Audrey. I love breastfeeding her. The closeness and bond we share. The private mommy and baby time that no one else can ever have with her. I'm hoping we'll make it to 2 year for Audrey. DH and I have talked about trying to have another baby after Audrey turns one, which would mean tandum (sp?) feeding and bfing during pregnancy, two things I had never thought about doing. Feed two babies at one time when they are different ages the thought had never crossed my mind. I had always thought breastfeeding during pregnancy was dangerous. So many things to think about!
For now Audrey and I are dealing with thrush. I hate thrush. I honestly think it hurts worse than childbirth! so we'll continue treating with Grapefruit Seed Extract. It is clearing up just not gone all the way.
Sunday, August 15, 2010
Birth stories vs Baby Stories
Ever since B died a few weeks back I've been thinking alot about something she said to me. We were talking about where to give birth. I was about 8 months and she was maybe 2 months along. I was going the whole home birth route and just in general talking about how I had changed doctors out of the practice she was using because the doc I met with just didn't jive with me and I didn't want to go to the local hospital. It had a high maternal death rate, high c-section rate, and high infant morality rate (not sure offically but I had heard enough around town). B said, "I won't get the birth I want but as long as I get a healthy baby."
Her words haunt me. She got a healthy baby, after Baby J's week in the NICU. But she didn't make it home. I'm sure B would thought the trade off was ok. I'm sure I would have been happy with the trade off too. If I had died by Audrey was a health baby, well then I had done my duty.
I read alot of homebirth forums and blogs. One time a person made the comment on one of the forums, "Women are going to die. Not everyone will survive birth. Whether at home or at the hospital, women are going to die. It is just a part of birth that not all of us will make it." I remember reading that thinking how true, we don't all survive birth. Funny, I read it, I understood it but I still didn't think it would happen to me. My sister-in-law nearly died in childbirth about a 7 months before Audrey was born, I figure that would be a close as anyone I knew would get to dying in childbirth.
I'm second guessing decisions that had nothing to do with me. I wonder if B would still be alive if she had been at home under the care of a midwife? Did the hospital kill her or was it just her time? Women die during childbirth, it is a fact. The hospital pushes c-sections to save babies and moms but sometimes they still die. You can have a natural childbirth and still die. It is just a matter of luck or your time being up. I have to admit I had a level of survivors guilt. I had my baby at home with a midwife. My water had been broken for 60 hours before Audrey was finally born. In some people's minds I deserved to die from complications, I did all the wrong things. B did everything right, she went in for an induction at 41 weeks, just like a good patient. She agreed to the c-section when the doc said the baby was in distress, Baby J needed CPR as soon as she was born and then a week in the NICU so the doc was right. But was the induction the cause of everything? What if they had just let Baby J have one more week? Having a baby at 42 weeks use to be normal now it's late. It's hard to see normal in a hospital. I made the decisions that were right for me. B made the decisions that were right for her. We both met our goal, a healthy baby. But did we get the same outcome?
Her words haunt me. She got a healthy baby, after Baby J's week in the NICU. But she didn't make it home. I'm sure B would thought the trade off was ok. I'm sure I would have been happy with the trade off too. If I had died by Audrey was a health baby, well then I had done my duty.
I read alot of homebirth forums and blogs. One time a person made the comment on one of the forums, "Women are going to die. Not everyone will survive birth. Whether at home or at the hospital, women are going to die. It is just a part of birth that not all of us will make it." I remember reading that thinking how true, we don't all survive birth. Funny, I read it, I understood it but I still didn't think it would happen to me. My sister-in-law nearly died in childbirth about a 7 months before Audrey was born, I figure that would be a close as anyone I knew would get to dying in childbirth.
I'm second guessing decisions that had nothing to do with me. I wonder if B would still be alive if she had been at home under the care of a midwife? Did the hospital kill her or was it just her time? Women die during childbirth, it is a fact. The hospital pushes c-sections to save babies and moms but sometimes they still die. You can have a natural childbirth and still die. It is just a matter of luck or your time being up. I have to admit I had a level of survivors guilt. I had my baby at home with a midwife. My water had been broken for 60 hours before Audrey was finally born. In some people's minds I deserved to die from complications, I did all the wrong things. B did everything right, she went in for an induction at 41 weeks, just like a good patient. She agreed to the c-section when the doc said the baby was in distress, Baby J needed CPR as soon as she was born and then a week in the NICU so the doc was right. But was the induction the cause of everything? What if they had just let Baby J have one more week? Having a baby at 42 weeks use to be normal now it's late. It's hard to see normal in a hospital. I made the decisions that were right for me. B made the decisions that were right for her. We both met our goal, a healthy baby. But did we get the same outcome?
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