So I'm going to a research conference on Sunday and I'm going to be gone for 4 days and 3 nights. I'm going without Ravebaby and DH. This will be the first time I'm going to be gone from Rave for more than 24 hrs. Honestly I haven't been away from DH for this long since 2007! I'm freaking out.
Thank God for Facebook and crunchy mamas as friends. It's good to be able to reach out and not feel like a freak for never having really left my child. I know many moms leave their kids overnight from the get go and if it works for them then more power to them. I'm not that mom. I did not have child to just keep living like I don't have one and I've been fortunate enough that I've been able to make life choices that allow me to max my time time with Rave and still allow me to not lose myself. So I'm not hating on anyone. I don't feel guilty about the way I live my life and you shouldn't either.
Anyways, I'm freaking out. I'll report back how it goes. I'm sure it will be fine. Rave is in the best hands possible. Anyone else other there wait til your child was older to be gone for the first time?
Showing posts with label overnight visits. Show all posts
Showing posts with label overnight visits. Show all posts
Friday, February 7, 2014
Tuesday, April 5, 2011
I'm a loser
Okay, so I've got several friends who have babies and I've noticed many talking about sending the baby to granny's for a night. I have not spent the night away from Audrey and she's 15 months old so needless to say I began feeling like I was a weirdo or really a loser. What is wrong with me? Why haven't I sent my baby away for an overnight visit? She should have time to bond with her grandparents, right?
So I did what every modern mom does, I hit Twitter up with the question, when did you first leave your child for the night? I mean maybe I"m damaging my child. So the responses were overwheleming at least 2 years old and one mom said 4 years old. This made me feel less like a weirdo. I'm not the only momma refusing to leave her baby for the night. But I was thinking about it. Is my sample actually "normal"? I mean I follow and am followed by people who think like me. Most of the people I follow are AP parents, lactivist, and homebirth activist, not exactly mainstream America.
I don't think I'm any closer to finding out if I'm normal or not with question to the whole leaving your baby thing. I guess I have to fall back on the old, "it feels right to me." I guess I also need to do some research on "normal" ages that children spend the night away from their parents. I know for me, Audrey spending the night down the hall won't happend until she's nightweaned. She still searchs for boob at least twice a night. I"m in no hurry to wean her at all so it may be a while yet. So when do you think it's okay to leave baby for the night?
So I did what every modern mom does, I hit Twitter up with the question, when did you first leave your child for the night? I mean maybe I"m damaging my child. So the responses were overwheleming at least 2 years old and one mom said 4 years old. This made me feel less like a weirdo. I'm not the only momma refusing to leave her baby for the night. But I was thinking about it. Is my sample actually "normal"? I mean I follow and am followed by people who think like me. Most of the people I follow are AP parents, lactivist, and homebirth activist, not exactly mainstream America.
I don't think I'm any closer to finding out if I'm normal or not with question to the whole leaving your baby thing. I guess I have to fall back on the old, "it feels right to me." I guess I also need to do some research on "normal" ages that children spend the night away from their parents. I know for me, Audrey spending the night down the hall won't happend until she's nightweaned. She still searchs for boob at least twice a night. I"m in no hurry to wean her at all so it may be a while yet. So when do you think it's okay to leave baby for the night?
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