So I'm Catholic and in theory so is Audrey. DH is not Catholic. He was raised Baptist but is currently without church. I like most cradle Catholics was baptized as a baby. Audrey is 17 months old and is still not baptized. This is a point of debate for DH and I.
DH is actually okay with us baptizing Audrey. I've been the issue to this point. See a few months back DH and I were debating circumcision for any future sons; DH is pro-circ and I am anti-circ. We reached a compromise! DH said that if our sons were going to choose to be circ-ed later in life then they should also be able to choose to be baptized. I can live with that. If I want my future sons to make the decision to be circumcised then I can understand that they should also choose to be baptized.
But this leaves the issue of the girls and right now Miss Audrey. If the boys get to choose then shouldn't Audrey? I grew up with visions of choosing baptismal gowns that would be passed down to grandchild. But should I really impose that on Audrey? I love being Catholic. I have my issues but I like going to Mass. I love the prayers and the rituals. Audrey goes to church with me. Audrey has missed Mass maybe twice since we started going out at week 3 postpartum. If I go, Audrey is with me. The kid is Catholic. One of her words is "Amen" and she knows to say it at the end of a prayer. She is learning to cross herself and hold her hands together to pray. Does she need to be baptized at this point in her life?
At first I didn't get Audrey baptized because we lived so far from family. They missed my whole pregnancy. They missed newborn Audrey. I wanted them there for her baptism. We have also been at an impass over Godparents. Who do we chose? We knew very few practicing Catholics and even less that we would trust with Audrey's religious life. So I have no clue what to do. I am praying and staying open to God's plan and hoping for guidance. I feel like the window for baptizing her is closing. If we wait til she's 3 then why not just wait til she wants to be baptized. I just don't know!
Thursday, May 26, 2011
It is amazing what you can do when you don't have a choice
So I've heard it so many times, "I couldn't do it. I have no idea how you . . . "
The . . . can be just about anything in my life. The wheat-freeness, breastfeeding a toddler, babywearing, co-sleeping, or the homebirthing. I think in this country we have been TV fed the idea that we can't do things. We can't wear a baby it's not safe you must have a stroller. Breastfeeding, why would you do that when you can just give the baby formula. Home birth, are you stupid? Only a doctor is qualified to deliver a baby. You'll die without an epidural; you can't handle the pain. Why do we buy into all of those things? It is amazing how powerful we are as humans, as women, as moms.
Now I'll admit that I have chosen my crunchy wheatfree life. Yes, I could have gone to the hospital and had an epidural. Yes, I can stop breastfeeding and kill a hamburger. Yes, she would cry but I could move Miss Audrey to her own bed. Why not buy a stroller? These are choices that I have made and therefore I am choosing to live my life this way. But what about things that you don't have a choice about?
I have a friend who had PUP, which if you don't know what it is Google it. She actually told me that she didn't know how I live wheat-free. I am in awe of her. She had PUP and let her baby be born on his own time. Most women with PUP have an induction at 38 weeks, the stress on the body and the mental strain are incredible. She ended up going for almost 42 weeks, a full month more than the norm. She is incredible! If she can do that she can do anything. Makes going wheat-free seem so small.
So what can we do if we 'have' to? People have super human strength when they need to save their child. We are amazing creatures. You could go wheat-free. It's not that hard. People are doing it for fun. If your health depended on it, you could do it. Don't even get me started on the crunchy life. Trust me you can do it. Life is all about choices. My choices are my own and yes they are not for everyone but just because you didn't doesn't mean you couldn't.
The . . . can be just about anything in my life. The wheat-freeness, breastfeeding a toddler, babywearing, co-sleeping, or the homebirthing. I think in this country we have been TV fed the idea that we can't do things. We can't wear a baby it's not safe you must have a stroller. Breastfeeding, why would you do that when you can just give the baby formula. Home birth, are you stupid? Only a doctor is qualified to deliver a baby. You'll die without an epidural; you can't handle the pain. Why do we buy into all of those things? It is amazing how powerful we are as humans, as women, as moms.
Now I'll admit that I have chosen my crunchy wheatfree life. Yes, I could have gone to the hospital and had an epidural. Yes, I can stop breastfeeding and kill a hamburger. Yes, she would cry but I could move Miss Audrey to her own bed. Why not buy a stroller? These are choices that I have made and therefore I am choosing to live my life this way. But what about things that you don't have a choice about?
I have a friend who had PUP, which if you don't know what it is Google it. She actually told me that she didn't know how I live wheat-free. I am in awe of her. She had PUP and let her baby be born on his own time. Most women with PUP have an induction at 38 weeks, the stress on the body and the mental strain are incredible. She ended up going for almost 42 weeks, a full month more than the norm. She is incredible! If she can do that she can do anything. Makes going wheat-free seem so small.
So what can we do if we 'have' to? People have super human strength when they need to save their child. We are amazing creatures. You could go wheat-free. It's not that hard. People are doing it for fun. If your health depended on it, you could do it. Don't even get me started on the crunchy life. Trust me you can do it. Life is all about choices. My choices are my own and yes they are not for everyone but just because you didn't doesn't mean you couldn't.
Tuesday, May 24, 2011
Time flies
I have been thinking about the passage of time. This year is my 10 year college reunion. So hard to believe it's been ten years! I loved my Hollins days but I won't be able to make it to reunion this year. Between the new job (no vacation) and lack of fundage there will be no traveling to Roanoke this year. Maybe next time.
This time of year has so much meaning for me. My birthday is Thursday. I'll be 32. This is time of year also marks the 14th anniversary of my grandmother's death. Hard to forget that one since it was right before I graduated from high school, right before my birthday. So there are lots of things on my mind and yet nothing to write about. Funny how that happens.
This time of year has so much meaning for me. My birthday is Thursday. I'll be 32. This is time of year also marks the 14th anniversary of my grandmother's death. Hard to forget that one since it was right before I graduated from high school, right before my birthday. So there are lots of things on my mind and yet nothing to write about. Funny how that happens.
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