Thursday, March 11, 2010

Who's baby is it anyways?

I've heard it many times that advice is people just remembering their own struggles but it is getting out of control! One wise teacher told me at my shower that I had to keep in mind that I was raising my baby not the doctor's or anyone else so stick to your own instincts. I think I'm doing a pretty good job of that, so far but I have lots of people trying to tell me that what I'm doing is wrong! That I'll be sorry later. So here is the list of my parenting sins according to "people who know."

1. Co-sleeping - I have to admit that co-sleeping just happened. I didn't plan on it but now that we do co-sleep it is the best thing in the world! I don't get to spend much time with Audrey during the day since I work but night time is our time. I can hold her and nurse her and just in general be close. Maybe I will regret this decision in the future when she needs me to help her go to sleep but I'm willing to find out.

2. Breastfeeding - While no one is telling me not to breastfeed they do tend to have an opinion on my wanting to breastfeed for at least 2 years. And the fact that I'm not giving my baby cereal yet is just appalling. Sort of goes with the co-sleeping thing, "No wonder the baby isn't sleeping thur the night! You need to have her in her own crib and feed her rice cereal!"

3. Daddy-day-care - We are lucky enough that my husband can stay home with the baby. Rather than put her in day-care, Ray gets to keep her. He is a wonderful father and I think the extra time for bonding is good for both. He'll be starting graduate school in the fall so his time with her will become more limited. I am jealous of his chance to be with her all day but I'm proud of the fact that he does. I don't care what other people say. A man can actual take care of a baby.

I'm sure there are other sins but those are the three I hear the most about. I'm nice about it. I let people say their peace and then do what I think is best besides what was best for their child is not what is best for mine.