Sunday, December 12, 2010

Sons

Okay so I have a daughter but I still want a son.  I was so convinced that I was going to have a boy!  I love my Audrey and God knew what he was doing since DH and I are currently at battle over circumcision.  Before joining the world of parents, I never thought too much about to cut or not to cut.  As far as I knew circumcision was what you did.  But now that I'm a mom and member of the crunchy community, I've started to change my mind on the whole circumcision debate.

I've talked to DH about it.  Why do we need to cut?  Research shows you don't need to do it.  We are born perfect so why chop off something immediately?  He comes down the the side of cut.  He has known many men that have had issues later in life and had to be circumcised in their teen years.  He argues that we should do it while our son is a baby and won't remember anything.  It is better to get it done now or our son will pay for it later. 

I understand that argument.  I should spare my child the pain of a adult circumcision and just do it while he is small but does every man have a problem with their uncircumcised penis?  I would think as a man of science that DH would do more research and come back to the question of circumcision but he has his mind set.  If we have a son then we will cut.  I want a son but I know the birth of a son would about world war three in my marriage. 

I can't image allowing someone to come in and cut on my son for no reason other than in the future he might could have an issue.  It feels like we should just got ahead and chop Audrey's breast buds off cause in the future she might develop breast cancer.  Or better yet lets not have anymore children since in the future they might be serial killers or work for the government.  A lot can happen in the future.  Why cause my child pain now?  Why allow for my son to be scarred for the rest of his life for something that might or might not happen?  Why not let nature takes it's course and if in the future my son needs a circumcision then we'll deal with it then?  Not sure what to do on this one.