I am a birth goddess. I am tired of people telling me that I'm not.
So where do I even start. I had a homebirth. I had no medication. I had no doctor at my DD's birth. DH almost didn't call the midwife in time because I was convinced that I wasn't in labor yet. DD was just under 7 lbs. I'm thinking I had about 12 hours of active labor but again the pain only got overwhelming during transition. I am a birth goddess.
So why do people feel the need to poopoo my birth? I tell them I had an amazing homebirth and then I tell them that DD was almost 7 lbs and then I get the hand. "Oh well my baby was 8 lbs so I had to have pain meds." I am not competing with you or your birth. You feel like you had to have pain meds, okay. Your body your choice, I have no clue what you were going through so I believe you.
It makes me mad that people want to diminish my birth. I had to push DD out. It would not have matter if she was 10 lbs; she was coming out. One way out during a homebirth so I was going to birth until she arrived. I have met many a mom who birthed a 10 lb at home. I remember I once asked my midwife if it was true that more homebirth babies were over 8lbs. In her experience, homebirth babies were bigger.
I get mad and then I feel bad for them. Like maybe they are just trying to justify their own birth to themselves. If they put me down then they feel better. I don't want to feel bad for them. I mean their birth is/was their birth. But I feel bad because I feel like most of them didn't choose but were told how to birth. I know TV shows birth as all pain but dude thrush was worse than birth. My bursitis was worse than birth. So I am a birth goddess. Just had to get it off my chest.